A plea to consider living

The video I watched today is from Simon — a 17-year-old boy who shared a powerful message with the world: don’t take your own life, the pain is temporary.

I hope people hear what he says. I hope it helps someone. I hope it might bring some peace to those who need it. Asking to wait just a little longer is good, as it brings clarity. But I don't agree with his message that the suffering will pass if you simply wait.

The noble truth of suffering: birth is suffering, aging is suffering, illness is suffering, death is suffering; union with what is displeasing is suffering; separation from what is pleasing is suffering; not to get what one wants is suffering; in brief, the five aggregates subject to clinging are suffering.

 _Buddha

You can wait two minutes, two months, or two decades — but suffering is inevitable. 
Suffering is not just part of life; it is life.

Why? Because our minds are designed to think based on emotions. We grieve what we lost, fear what we don't know, chase what we don't have. These never ends as long as we live. 

Even a child — who hasn’t yet seen the full weight of life — suffers under pressure. School, parents, expectations. As adults, we look back and call it "silly,” or "Temporary." We wish the suffering we face now was as light, but to that child, it’s real pain. The kind that eats him from the inside, the kind that has taken many lives of children.

We forget that our current pain is probably similar. It is very real today and it is causing you immense grief. Asking you to wait might feel like asking someone touching a flame to wait. Saying that it will pass, might sound hollow because the pain is unbearable.

So the question to me is not about whether the pain will pass but whether you want to wait to begin with.

At first glance, the answer might feel like an obvious ‘no.’ Death can take away all your pain and suffering. It is a dream come true. 

Silence. Stillness. Peace.

But introspect the consequence of your death deeper, because the nothingness that death offers is not free. 

The peace of mind would be at the expense of people who loved and cared for you - your mother, your father, your sibling, your best friend. They’re the ones whom you will be condemning to carry the suffering forward. They will grieve for losing you, as they are as vulnerable as you.

Meanwhile, if you were trying to send a message to someone. Why would they care about your death? they didn’t care when you were alive and hurting. Why would death make them care for you more?

They may feel pain for a day or two, but they would be the least impacted. They would soon forget you ever existed. 

An angry or saddened mind often hurts itself more than the person they wanted hurt. So if this is your intention of dying, It makes the least sense to me.

Holding onto anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

So, Are you sure you want to die?

Only you can answer that. And I am not here to say you shouldn't. I am not here to say you should wait. All I ask is know what you are choosing. To know the consequences of your action. To be intentional.

As for me, a mistake I made haunts me. My actions made me fail as per my own value system, it failed my parents and broke my family. I judge me for my mistake daily, abuse myself for ever doing it whenever I think about it, But I am still here.

Here is what I know from experience, It is true that you won't feel the pain as much if you wait, You will even experience the sprinkles of joy. But depending on how much it hurt you, it may leave a scar, which will bring back pain. You may stop crying with your eyes, but you may continue to cry in your heart.

I’ve already decided that I’ll die when my parent's pass away. I’ve made peace with the decision. They are the ones I will make sure won't suffer through my death. 

If your concern is how can you gather the strength to suffer in silence so that the ones who care for you don't. What worked for me is meditation and distractions. While I had gotten into regular meditations, I kept my mind busy with things I like. You will notice that as time passes, the pain will come less frequently than before, but it may never completely disappear.